When an anti-abortion governor’s mistress becomes pregnant, “choice” takes on a whole new meaning for him.
No matter how rich, powerful or handsome he is, he is defenseless against your womanly power.
I met Rebecca when we lived in Miami Lakes in the early 1980s. We found we really liked each other just as friends, and we became each other's sounding boards for relationships.She was always confident where men were concerned, and often she dated several men at the same time. When I asked her if they knew about each other, she said, "If they ask, I tell them." I asked her how they felt about it, and she said, "If they don't like it, they know where the door is." I had never met a woman like her, and once I had a chance to ask a man she was dating what was so special about her. He pointed to the top of his head, then down at his feet as he said, "From the top of her head, to the tip of her toes." That said it all about Rebecca.
Rebecca and I spent many hours together discussing men and relationships. I knew she had a great marriage to a successful and good-looking man who adored her. I learned that she had dated many men, loved more than one of them, and had several marriage proposals, so of course I wanted to learn what she knew. I always admired Sean Penn as a famous actor, and I knew we had one specific interest in common. After the devastating earthquake in Haiti in 2010, Sean Penn lent his time, his voice and his wallet to the effort to stabilize and rebuild. As a flight attendant, I was able to do my part in collecting literally tons of goods to take with me on my flights there. Among the many hats I wore, I also became an emissary for the Art Creation Foundation for Children in Jacmel, Haiti. One day, lo and behold, Sean Penn was in first class on my flight back from Haiti. I very much wanted to talk to him, but I hesitated for all the reasons you would imagine. But then I heard Rebecca's voice in my head saying, "He's just a man!" With that mantra bolstering me, I sat down across from him and we talked about our mutual interest and efforts in Haiti. I gave him my emissary business card; and even though I knew that I would never hear from him, I had done something I never would have done if not for Rebecca--I took a chance, and I was a better woman for it.
I’ve known Rebecca since 1980, when we were both in our early 20s and living in Miami. Even then, she had men figured out. She thinks like a man, but she is also one of the most "kick ass" feminine women I’ve ever known. She is a powerful combination of confidence and beauty, both inside and out. Rebecca is the authority on men and relationships, and I can say this with confidence because without her guidance, I would never have gotten my husband to the altar!
Brenda Lasker Gaines
I first met Rebecca when I was just newly married to my first husband. She was in her early 20s and I was amazed how she was able to walk into a room and took control in the most unobtrusive way. Her banking clients, male or female, hung onto every recommendation she would make. I know her book is about "men" but honestly she gained knowledge about human nature early on. Her advice is dead on and being head strong and afraid of my own shadow, I never listened. She helped me to appreciate all that I had to offer, slowly my confidence grew stronger and I knew that I could choose the man that I wanted... I did not have to settle. It would be my choice to have a man in my life or not .. I was good in my own skin and I knew I did not need a man. This left me open to endless possibilities... Lucky for the guy I married, an attorney, I chose him and he gets to spend his life in my loving arms happy to take care of all my needs... Thanks Rebecca for all the late night discussions your advice was priceless.
The author does a wonderful job at building suspense and keeping the reader flipping ... I read this novel in two days. Initially, I was hesitant to read a book about Roe v Wade and politics, but quickly got drawn into the characters and the plot. The author does a wonderful job at building suspense and keeping the reader flipping the pages. I commend the author on her beautiful writing. The scenes came to life, and I could see this book becoming a movie. All the ingredients are there: murder, mystery, sex, love, politics, good guys, bad guys, and all at a heart stopping pace. Bravo!
A mystery with depth and substance. What a story! The back page of Moral Infidelity, as well as the title, made me think this would be a story that is soaked in pro choices(life,choice) and filled with politics. I have to say though, that although these were definate threads to the plot, it is more of a story about people. It got me thinking, which I love to do, and it got me to question the debate. But while I thought and questioned, I was entertained and thrilled.
The author filled the pages with characters, flawed and self rightious, funny and ascerbic, gorgeous and tragic. The dialogue was spot on. I love when a writer can grasp the nuances of colloquial speech, delivering believable and engaging dialogue that puts the reader there in the moment as if a fly on a wall. Speaking of flies, I felt like a spy, reading this book. Behind the scenes with politicians, cops, lawyers and the inner circle of the elite. What a great and entertaining way to experience our own social structure, our government and decision makers, and the most difficult topics along with the accountability everyone must take regarding choices. Even the elite.
Moral Infidelity does tackle a hard subject, and yes there are politics and legal tape wrapped through the plot, but there is also passion, and sex, and friendship. There is loyalty and betrayal, and self discovery. And there are twists. Many twists, which I loved and made me stay up late to tap on my tablet screen to get to the next page.
It is always hard writing a review for a thriller or mystery, because details will give away the surprise. I hate spoilers! So I will end this review with a high recomendtaion for Moral Infidelity. Get swept away into a world of hot Florida nights and discover just who, in the end, you would root for.
This is a great book! I bought it at an author's signing event and must admit I was somewhat surprised as the story began to unfold and I found myself totally absorbed in its pages. It is one of those "can't put down" books that I love getting caught up in! As I read, I kept considering the ending possibilities, but I was totally surprised at how it actually turned out. I am anxious to read the author's next book and I hope she is working on one for the future! You can't go wrong with this book!
From an Amazon.com Customer
Moral Infidelity is one of the best books I’ve read in several years. Not only are the characters intriguing and exceptionally well developed, the story line is very thought-provoking, given today’s political climate surrounding a woman’s right to choose. Ms. Warner has written a very interesting story with a lot of vastly different characters. Michael Romano is one of those guys you just love to hate; Mr. Perfect until he becomes anything but. I felt bad for Jake, just missing the chance to get to know his twin, but he ended up in a pretty good spot. Caroline turned out to be my favorite, although at first I felt she had allowed herself to be arm candy and a doormat for her husband. She ended up having the last word and gave hubby everything the jerk so richly deserved. I highly recommend this book to any reader who likes politics, a really good mystery, great characters, and a look at how the wealthy folks in Florida live. It’s no wonder Warner is winning awards for her novel – I could find absolutely nothing to fault. Fantastic read and I’m looking forward to more from this exceptional author.
Linda Thompson ~ Host of The Authors Show
Rebecca Warner perfectly executed a controversial topic by not forcing opinions, giving life to her characters and letting them speak for themselves. She masterfully wrote dialogues that are complete, understandable and perfect. Nothing is left out, and the reader understands what is happening. The reader is thoroughly invested in the story. A good novel that deserves to be read again! Amazingly written.
Rabia Tanveer ~ for Readers' Favorite
Nothing in this page-turning novel is arbitrary. There are many twists and turns. Every character and the choices that they make ring true.
Jill Cox Vogt ~ Westmoreland Arts & Heritage Winner
Almost against my snobby literary non-fiction taste I was drawn into the engaging plot lines, well-drawn characters, steamy setting and, well, the delicious tension the author builds. It's fun, and the pay-offs keep coming as the story unfolds to its necessary end.
Jay Leutze ~ Award Winning Author of Stand Up That Mountain (Simon & Schuster)
I devoured this baby in the course of one day. I could not put it down. I love, love, loved Lexi Avery. She's the beautiful, tenacious, confident woman that we all would love to be.
Jennifer Theriot ~ Amazon Bestselling Author
If you want love and romance, I highly recommend this book!
Kelly Cozzone ~ Amazon International Bestselling Author
Rebecca Warner is an advocate for women--strong women--and it shows clearly in her new book HE'S JUST A MAN. Her breezy, chatty writing style draws you in immediately and her conviction is clear in every word. If you're unhappy sitting home alone, feeling bad about yourself, wondering what the trick is to attracting and keeping a man, check out this book. There's no need to be intimidated by relationships or to feel like your are less valuable than any man--Ms. Warner shows you why you should be claiming your womanly power and how to do it. Nice job, Rebecca!
He's Just A Man is a great book and every woman needs to read this. Not only does it provide real life examples but it offers real insight on how to attract a great guy..more importantly this book will help every woman be an even better woman, a stronger more confidant woman..This is a fun book to read ..you'll laugh and you will most certainly learn something new ....I promise.
I love the author's confidence, candor, and her message of empowerment for women, and I can't wait to recommend this book to my adult daughters. This is a must read for women of all ages!
REKINDLING THE TORCH OF CHOICE
Those of us who are over 50 have reached that comfortable age when we no longer have to worry about an unintended pregnancy. For us, the issue of reproductive choice has faded in importance. But for our daughters and granddaughters of childbearing age, it should still matter—now more than ever.
Those of us who became sexually active in the 70s had protections in place to safeguard us from unwanted pregnancy. In 1972, the Supreme Court ruled that unmarried women could legally be prescribed birth control pills. And then in 1973, the landmark Roe v. Wade decision gave women the right to make decisions about whether or not to have an abortion. These protections are still largely in place in 2015. However, with the aggressive anti-choice agenda being pushed by state and federal lawmakers, that may not be the case by the next presidential election.
I’ve always advocated choice, simply because I felt another person should never have any say over any decisions regarding my body. Choice dovetailed with the years I became sexually active, and my reproductive choices were protected under the law.
Legal protection of women’s reproductive choices has been under relentless assault for some time, and those efforts are escalating. Republicans in Congress, emboldened by their new majority, introduced five abortion restrictions in the first three days of the new legislative session! Their proposed restrictions would severely limit women’s access to abortion. Politicians are inserting themselves in the most private and personal medical decision that should be left up to a woman and her doctor.
What is truly baffling is their quest to defund Planned Parenthood. One in five women visits a Planned Parenthood clinic at least once in her life. Why would Republicans want to defund Planned Parenthood when it helps to prevent more than half a million unintended pregnancies each year, thereby making the need for an abortion moot? It seems irrational, and at cross-purposes. Yes, Planned Parenthood is there when a woman needs abortion care, but performing abortions is only three percent of the many services they provide. Why inhibit a woman’s access to birth control, pelvic screenings, breast exams and other health-and-reproductive-related services?
We are going backwards, and the generations of women who are of child-bearing age do not seem meaningfully motivated to halt this persistent march back to the days of no choice. They’ve lived with the victorious results of a hard-won battle that raged through the 60s and early 70s. That is ancient history to them, but it isn’t ancient history to those of us who saw the battle being waged and first benefitted from its accomplishment.
The Women’s Liberation Movement, like the Civil Rights movement, required organization, dedication, and unification to be recognized. The impetus for that kind of solidarity is not there today. The pro-life movement, on the other hand, has burgeoned and is gaining strength day by day. Both the Civil Rights and Women’s Liberation Movement brought about positive changes in society. Imagine if legislation were being churned out to prohibit African-Americans from having the same rights as white people, such as drinking from the same water fountain? Would you not think, That’s nuts! They can’t do that! We’re way past that!
Why aren’t women reacting as strongly to the potential loss of their right to make decisions about their own bodies?
Perhaps it is because we older women have become unworried, since we are no longer personally affected. Maybe it is because younger women don’t know about or can’t relate to the horrors of backroom abortions. They may know women who have had an abortion–a safe, legal medical procedure; but they don’t know women who died from a botched abortion.
The Nineteenth Amendment that gave women the right to vote was also hard fought for and won. Think about how you took for granted your right to vote when you turned eighteen. In that same way, younger women are taking for granted that they will have reproductive choices in the future. But that is not so. Even access to birth control, as we can see by the assault on Planned Parenthood and the SCOTUS decision in the Hobby Lobby case, is under attack.
It is time for women of every generation to stop taking choice for granted. Let’s acknowledge that the Republican’s answer to birth control—total abstention—is unrealistic, and that it is up to us to keep birth control and safe abortions accessible. This is going to require our generation’s involvement. Those of us who enjoyed virtually worry-free sex must educate younger women about how difficult it was when women had no access to birth control or safe abortions.
It is time for our generation to rekindle the torch of choice, and to pass it down. It is time for us, the most outspoken, inspiring and audacious women in history, to shake women of all ages out of their complacency! Our legacy should be the empowerment of younger women in constructing stronger, independent lives that aren’t lived according to ideals imposed by men. It is our duty to encourage them to fight for the continued right of choice, so that they can in turn inspire the generations of women who come after them to do the same.
We are not too old to take up the battle. Let us give others the benefit of our experience and knowledge. We lived it, so we can talk of it with intelligence and confidence. Let’s start by engaging our daughters, granddaughters, and young friends in meaningful conversations about what the loss of choice will mean for them. Let’s emphasize the value of their vote, and enlist their support of organizations that support choice, like Planned Parenthood, NARAL and Emily’s List.
Let us not go gently into our golden years. Instead, let us reinvigorate and do what we can now to help preserve a woman’s most fundamental right—the right to have total control over her own body.
There was a debate raging on LinkedIn recently, when someone asked the question, "What value do you put on authors when they describe themselves as 'Award Winners?'"
Responses ranged from vitriolic to meh to upbeat--the last provided by award-winning authors, for the most part.
I don't describe myself anywhere as "an award-winning author." I do say, "Author of the two-time award-winning book, Moral Infidelity." My input on that LinkedIn thread was that I thought I wrote a good book, I wanted validation, and so I entered two contests--and I won in both. And yes, there was a fee for entry to both The Great Southeast Book Festival Book (GSBF) Award Contest ($50), and the Readers' Favorite (RF) Book Reviews and Award Contest ($89.) This *fee* sparked a lot of, "If you have to pay for it, it has no value" comments.
Not so, I exclaim! Paying a modest fee to enter a competitive, professionally-judged contest is by no definition “pay for play.” Sure, there are vanity presses out there that will publish you or promote you strictly based on what you pay—that is totally different. When I learned from the President of Readers' Favorites, James Ventrillo, at the awards ceremony in Miami on November 21, 2015, that there were over 600 entries in my category of Fiction: Thriller General, I felt there was indeed value in that award. I had won a bronze medal--third place--in a category that was highly competitive. In fact, there were two silver and two bronze awards in that category; and as Mr. Ventrillo explained, there are five judges awarding points to each book. In my category, there were actual ties for the silver and bronze awards. So, technically, I was in the top five of that category. Still, I feel my book has been, well, validated.
In addition, I received a glowing 5-star review from one of the Readers' Favorite reviewers, and I was able to use it on my Amazon book page under "Editorial Reviews." I also peppered my social media pages with a high-resolution bronze digital medal that looked pretty spiffy alongside my Great Southeast Book Festival Honorable Mention gold digital badge. I don't know how many entries there were in the Great Southeast Book Festival, but I do know there was one winner, one runner-up, and ten honorable mentions--of which Moral Infidelity was one. I photo-shopped both onto my book cover, which I feel adds interest.
Now, I admit that when I won the GSBF award in January, 2015, I myself pooh-poohed it. It didn't get media coverage, and sales of my book did not budge. I had to pay for the gold stickers to use on the book ($25) but didn't find that exorbitant. When I received notification on September 1, 2015 that Moral Infidelity had won the bronze in the Readers' Favorite contest, I walked into my husband's study and laconically informed him. Of course, I had no idea of the level of competition at that time, so I couldn't assign a lot of value or enthusiasm to the award. But I decided we would attend the awards ceremony in Miami (any excuse to go to Miami, where I had lived for 30 years), so I went to the Readers' Favorite winners' page, made reservations, and ordered the complimentary bronze stickers.
After winning that second award, my proud husband contacted a friend who had been a book reviewer for three different national newspapers, asking him if he knew of anyone with a major periodical who could review my book and get it more exposure. He mentioned both awards, and surprisingly, the reviewer replied, "If she's won the Great Southeast Book Festival award, she's already accomplished something. There's buzz about that award in the industry." Who knew? There was an awards ceremony for GSBF winners being held in California, but I didn't even consider going. Learning that there was some measure of prestige attached to that award, I now wish I had.
Readers' Favorite posted the information about the winning books on numerous social media sites, including Facebook and Twitter. They put on a heck of a fine awards banquet, and delivered some high-quality photos that can be used for marketing and promotion. So do I feel I got $89 worth of value from Readers' Favorite? You bet I do! Best of all, sales ticked up that awards weekend when I ran a promotion, and Moral Infidelity entered the top 5,000 on Amazon for the first time. Do I feel I got my value out of the $50 Great Southeast Book Festival Award (plus the $25 for stickers?) Hard to say, but I know that I am now almost as proud of the GSBF award as I am of the RF award.
For those who think any paid entry for a contest makes it bogus, I would like to point out that someone has to read and review the entries, and someone has to read and judge those entries. I can't imagine any organization that is altruistic enough to pay those persons on authors' behalf. I can't imagine any reviewers who would read dozens of books and review them as a favor. Somehow, the costs for the banquet venue and food, the medals, and the photographer, had to be paid. That booth at the Miami Book Fair International, where the award-winning books were displayed, was not free. When you consider all that Readers' Favorite delivered, I think $89 is a bargain.
So yes, I feel I got my money's worth...Validation, promotion, and a fun time in Miami, where I met so many interesting authors. Book promoters and marketing specialists were there to offer advice, along with their services. Of course, the promoters and marketers have other (paid) services to offer, and for those who wish to take it further, they at least have a place to start.
I'm now working on my fourth book, and though at this point I have no idea if it will be good enough to win another award, I might just pony up the money and go for what I originally intended to get out of the entire awards process--validation. Where's the flaw in that?
I have just self-published my third book in 15 months, and although there has been a great deal of satisfaction in writing those books, I know I need to take a breather--but my "purpose" in writing them won't allow me to do so!
I self-published my first two books, MORAL INFIDELITY and DOUBLING BACK TO LOVE, at the age of 59. Yes, quite a late age to start a career in writing. In this, my 60th year, I published Book 1: HE'S JUST A MAN: Making the Most of Your Womanly Power.
All of my books embrace the concept of women standing in their own power. The escalating assault on a woman's reproductive choices, especially her right to an abortion, compelled me to publish MORAL INFIDELITY, a book about a hypocritical pro-life governor whose mistress becomes pregnant, and the choices he is forced to make when an unintended pregnancy threatens to ruin his life. Choice takes on a whole new meaning for him.
DOUBLING BACK TO LOVE is about a woman who asks the question, "Why does it have to come down to choosing just one man, when no one man can give me everything I want?" She won't be shackled by conventionality and duplicitous morality in seeking love.
Both of those books are works of fiction.
HE'S JUST A MAN is a non-fiction, self-help book for women. It is intended to help women build their self-esteem so that they can approach men and relationships from a position of strength, versus an unhealthy position of perceived need.
I am working hard to write these books that explore concepts and actions that empower women, because we are at a critical time in the history of women's rights. Those rights are being assaulted by right-wing politicians and religious fundamentalists like never before. Women's Choice is in danger of being extinguished, and that is something I want to fight against--and my best weapons are my words.
None of my books have reached a wide audience, though they have garnered many five-star reviews and ratings from those who have read them. I have yet to "move into the black"'in terms of making more money than I have spent in self-publishing them; but I feel compelled to keep writing about the issues that matter most to me, issues which I feel should matter to all women: The right to control our own lives and to have control over our own bodies.
I don't have delusions that my books will change the world, but I do wish for them to empower and embolden women to fight back against the assault on their rights to social, political and economic equality to men.
So I'll keep writing and hoping that my 60 years of living--during which I have accumulated knowledge, experience and information--will find ears to listen, and hearts to follow, in the quest to put to rest, finally and forever, the idea that women are not as deserving of equality in all areas of their lives as men are.
Is that an impossible dream? Perhaps, but then, I always was one to tilt at windmills!